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Like shattered glass [Final Part]

Bukola hurried to get a knife from the kitchen. She warned that if I went outside, she would hurt herself and everyone would assume I had hurt her. I had no choice but to stay.

I became overwhelmed!
Why am I involved in this relationship, exactly? I asked myself.

There are countless cases of this. There have been situations that I have just wailed because the situation is just too overwhelming for me to tell my buddies.
Besides, there is no point telling them, anyway. My friends will refer to me as a weak man.

This could be entirely my fault. I recognized the warning signs and continued hoping things would turn differently or perhaps… The world has been unfair to me.


I feel unsure of so many things.

How do I end this unhealthy relationship? There are certain things that are difficult to live with, I mumbled to myself as I stepped slowly towards the mirror, stroked my face, and said. 

Things like heartbreak, loss, and regret, especially. Going through the anguish of experiencing a broken heart seems to…. [ continue reading through this link- https://www.ladypdiary.com/post/like-shattered-glass-final-part

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LIKE SHATTERED GLASS (4)

I was told to “man up” by Tom and Fred when I told them about how Bukola humiliates me. That, however, did not help resolve my issue.  They said I am weak and as a man I should not tolerate that act from a woman. 

Yes, I should not. I can’t understand why I find myself going back to Bukola. 

I sometimes wonder if this is love or if I’m being overly sentimental.

I feel uneasy continuing our relationship.

I suppose I should see a therapist! It could be the problem is me.

The peak of Bukola’s attitude was when I came back late starving from work.

 I went to the dining to get food, since Bukola rarely cooks and dishes in the dining when she can’t stay up late to eat with me. However, there was no food on the dining. I strolled to the kitchen to serve myself, but there was no food there either.

She approached me and stated that I was not deserving of food.

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LIKE SHATTERED GLASS (3)

By the time I got home, Bukola had already cooked my favorite meal and dressed in a lingerie! She opened the door and smiled warmly.

I was stunned, but I couldn’t resist her warm smile. I tried my best to pretend by ignoring her as soon as she opened the door.

As I walked away from my room door, she stood behind me and hugged me. She knelt on the floor crying…. [ continue reading 👇🏽

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LIKE SHATTERED GLASS (2)

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To cut the long story short, we were in the talking stage for about 5 months and we felt we could take the relationship to the next level.

Let me tell you a bit about my love…

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Like shattered glass (1)

Where there is an ending, there is a new beginning, but I can’t seem to find this new beginning. Some things are hard to live with.

Things like regret, loss, and especially heartbreak. Going through the pain of heartbreak seem like a never ending pain.

These were the words I said to myself one morning as I stared at my image in the mirror. 

Hello, my name is John. I work in a digital marketing firm and my job is pretty good.

I am good looking and I know what I want.

I remember using that line in my bio when I signed up for a dating site. There are various good-looking girls on dating sites, but my first rule is: I must see you physically before I start anything serious with you. I remembered Jane I met on this dating site a few years back. She appeared good looking in photos and has nice butt. We kept chatting daily and scheduled to meet in a restaurant for dinner. She had to reintroduce herself severally before I believed. Why does she look so different? That was when she told me she used filters in her photos. Well, she is okay… But not as pretty as the photos. 

What happened to your butt? I asked her. 

I just wanted to be real with you, so I did not put it on. She replied. 

I nodded my head slowly in shock and made up my mind to see a lady in person before being serious. I shrugged and said to myself, Thank God she’s being honest, anyway. 

We eventually did not go into anything serious. Perhaps I don’t like her that much for commitment. So, I told myself she was older. 

Oh… Sorry for diverting. I wanted to tell you about a lady I met on this dating site. 

Her name is Bukola. I call her Bu…. Ko… And she likes the way I call her that. The first attraction for me was her smile. How can a lady smile so innocently I mumbled to myself as I kept staring at her pictures. I told her I love her as much as I love her smile and we kept the conversation going for weeks. Apart from the fact she has a charming smile, her butt looks real in her photos. Why did I believe it’s her real butt, anyway? I told myself I won’t believe anything online till I meet the lady physically. Her case was exceptional. I thanked God for helping me locate the woman of my dreams. There is a connection I screamed with excitement while I gestured my hands in the air as if trying to catch something. I got her! I said in excitement.

OVERCOMING LONELINESS (7) (DISCOVERING YOURSELF)

YOU CAN USE ALONE TIME TO CONNECT WITH YOURSELF.


Think of what you enjoy doing alone. Are you a reader?

What kind of books do you enjoy reading? Read it! Perhaps you do not enjoy reading; but think of what you like to do alone and do it. 
The internet is accessible to you.

You can go on YouTube and learn something that interest you. For an example: If you enjoy taking smoothie, you can go online and learn how to do that. If you enjoy makeup, you can spend time alone learning that too.


You can learn something new or you can perfect your skills. There are various online classes you can access online for free (and paid version if you wish). If you want to learn a skill, you can do that alone. You can use alone time to get back in touch with yourself. 


Meditate: When you sit down and meditate, you have a moment to observe your feelings. Although meditation takes practice and consistency. Take a moment alone and focus on your breathing. 


Inhale and exhale.🧘‍♂️🧘


Loneliness can seem like a huge issue to overcome, but taking baby steps can produce positive changes in your life.

Remember, Loneliness can hit anyone, but it is nothing to feel ashamed about. 


Everyone feels this way sometimes. Make human connection a priority!

Overcoming loneliness(6) (using Affirmations, gratitude and journaling to combat loneliness)

Affirmations are positive statements to help you overcome negative thoughts. Create affirmations you can repeat to yourself daily.

Here are some examples of affirmations you can say to yourself when you’re feeling lonely:

❤️My existence matters on this earth.

❤️My life is filled with laughter, love, and good times.

❤️I attract positive people.

❤️I radiate love and compassion for myself and others.

❤️My feelings are valid.

❤️I am getting better.

❤️I have the courage to connect with people.

❤️The universe needs me.

Gratitude: Focusing on gratitude is another way to combat your loneliness. Write down at least 5-10 things you are grateful for each day.

It could be for the air you breath in,

the water you drink,

Shelter, Wind, Rain,

Sunshine,

etc. Be grateful for the simple things you have in life; the things that make you smile.

 Your gratitude list can be big or little. Just 
think of what makes you to be thankful.

Another Journaling prompt you can write in your journal is writing what scares you about being lonely. You feel lonely and you are unhappy about it. Perhaps there is something you fear more.
It could be fear of growing old alone. It could be fear of being alone when your friends eventually get married and live their lives, but you are left alone. Write down what you fear most about being lonely and say them aloud. 

The fears you keep can have a hold on you, but when you say them aloud and change your thoughts about how you feel, you do not allow the fear of being lonely to take the best part of you. When your friend is feeling lonely and comes to tell you about it, what will you do? 

You will empathize with your friend, right? Write down what you will do to yourself if you were offering support to your friend. Come up with some kind words you can say to yourself and write it down.

You can come up with your prompts. These are just a guide to put you through journaling if you are just starting how to journal.

Journaling is a good way to vent your emotions, and it helps you be in touch with your feelings, stay organised and memorize event that has happened to you.