My life as a roller coaster ride (part 1)

“Oh my God, my potatoes are burnt! I forgot to add the word ‘again.’ This has been like my routine for several weeks after I lost my jobโ€”getting my food burnt!

Although I got another job, I feel I should not complain. Why should I complain anyway? ‘You are lucky,’ Anna would always say whenever we have our girls’ fun activities to unwind. Anna always feels like she has something to say in every conversation.

Recently, I have not had the luxury of time to enjoy ‘girly’ nights out. I know I mentioned I lost my job, then got another, which I should be happy about. The reality is that I am not honestly pleased with my current position.

I worked as a secretary in my previous job. I am certain you know what a secretary does in an organizationโ€”receiving guests, forcing smiles, that sort of thing. There were some days I enjoyed my job, and some days I cursed the day I stepped my feet into the organization for an interview. I remember saying I can work under pressure and am a fast learner. I am indeed a fast learner, but I cannot say the same for working under pressure.

Perhaps, there is nothing wrong with the job; it just did not align with what I want. Not really, actually. It aligns with something I want, and that’s definitely a bigger pay. Sometimes, I wonder why we cannot all be transparent during an interview. Like the interviewees asking, ‘Why do you want this job?’ and can we just say, ‘It pays more than my previous job’? Funny! But these are my random thoughts. I have a lot to bring to the table but cannot overlook the fact that I needed more money. It is funny how I change jobs and get excited about a new one because I get better pay, and as years go by, the money is suddenly not enough to pay all my bills. Wellโ€ฆ”

Men’s mental health stigma (FINAL PART)

How can you help?Be there to listen without judgment.

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Men’s Mental Health Stigma (3)

Encouragement and allowing men to speak openly and confidently about their mental health are important steps in helping men handle their mental health.

Seeing the behavioral changes in the men in your life is another way to raise awareness and encourage them to get help. These men could be your father, grandfather, friend, neighbor, brother-in-law, brother, friend-of-the-family, neighbor, church member, etc. Regardless of your relationship with the men in your life, it is crucial to notice these changes and to encourage them to get professional assistance.

Among these changes are listed below:

Their personality shifts from the person they used to be to a different person,

exhibiting personality traits including mood swings, an inability to deal with minor issues, and aggravation when addressing difficulties,

even though it is something they can handle with ease.

Also, individuals start to lose interest in activities they formerly enjoyed, such as….

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Men’s mental health stigma (2)

Every man’s experience and expression of mental health issues is unique. Depression, anxiety disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder [PTSD], and substance abuse are some of the most common mental health issues in men.

Some  men frequently avoid seeking help when they need it, leading them to believe that they can push through negative emotions or work through problematic behaviors on their own.

As a result of this decision, they engage in behaviors that can be harmful in the long run and lead to addictive behavior, causing them to neglect important areas of their lives.

While some men believe that talking about their problems is not the answer, in most cases, they resist going to…

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Men’s mental health stigma (1)

Don’t weep! 

Be a man! 

Do any of these above sound familiar?

There is a strong expectation that men

should be tough and solve their 

problems on their own, and seeking 

help is frequently viewed as a sign of

weakness on the part of the man.

Depression, anxiety, and other mental

health conditions can affect both men

and women. However, everyone’s experiences are 

unique. Most men conceal their

emotions in order to conform to

the socially acceptable masculine role. Instead of sharing their feelings with

their lovedย ones,ย theย typicalย responsesย are;

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Like shattered glass [Final Part]

Bukola hurried to get a knife from the kitchen. She warned that if I went outside, she would hurt herself and everyone would assume I had hurt her. I had no choice but to stay.

I became overwhelmed!
Why am I involved in this relationship, exactly? I asked myself.

There are countless cases of this. There have been situations that I have just wailed because the situation is just too overwhelming for me to tell my buddies.
Besides, there is no point telling them, anyway. My friends will refer to me as a weak man.

This could be entirely my fault. I recognized the warning signs and continued hoping things would turn differently or perhapsโ€ฆ The world has been unfair to me.


I feel unsure of so many things.

How do I end this unhealthy relationship? There are certain things that are difficult to live with, I mumbled to myself as I stepped slowly towards the mirror, stroked my face, and said. 

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LIKE SHATTERED GLASS (4)

I was told to “man up” by Tom and Fred when I told them about how Bukola humiliates me. That, however, did not help resolve my issue.  They said I am weak and as a man I should not tolerate that act from a woman. 

Yes, I should not. I can’t understand why I find myself going back to Bukola. 

I sometimes wonder if this is love or if I’m being overly sentimental.

I feel uneasy continuing our relationship.

I suppose I should see a therapist! It could be the problem is me.

The peak of Bukola’s attitude was when I came back late starving from work.

 I went to the dining to get food, since Bukola rarely cooks and dishes in the dining when she can’t stay up late to eat with me. However, there was no food on the dining. I strolled to the kitchen to serve myself, but there was no food there either.

She approached me and stated that I was not deserving of food.

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LIKE SHATTERED GLASS (3)

By the time I got home, Bukola had already cooked my favorite meal and dressed in a lingerie! She opened the door and smiled warmly.

I was stunned, but I couldn’t resist her warm smile. I tried my best to pretend by ignoring her as soon as she opened the door.

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LIKE SHATTERED GLASS (2)

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To cut the long story short, we were in the talking stage for about 5 months and we felt we could take the relationship to the next level.

Let me tell you a bit about my love…

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7 steps to looking after yourself

You have probably heard people talk about having a sound lifestyle. Well, it goes beyond word of mouth but requires action. Having a sound lifestyle also means looking after yourself physically, mentally, emotionally.

Taking care of yourself helps you succeed in other responsibilities and it is only when you take care of yourself you are in a better position to help your loved ones. You do not have to wait until you experience burnout before you find solution to looking after yourself.

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