Tell yourself what you needed to hear in your past, it could be when you were a child. Think about the younger version of yourself; what did you long to hear then? What word would have given you reassurance? What would have built you up rather than tear you down? What would have made you bold rather than make you fear? What would have built your self-esteem rather than make you have a low self-esteem?
Think of these situations and the word (s) that you would have heard from someone to feel better.
Gently meditate on this.
After meditating, come up with the words you longed for and tell yourself these words. I will list some words below as an example of what you longed to hear in your past. Do not forget to tell yourself those words now.
Everything you need comes at the right moment.
You are adorable, just the way you are.
I love you.
You don’t have to be perfect.
Do your best and leave the rest.
You can count on me, I will always have your back.
You are important.
I am going to help you get through it.
It is okay to make mistakes.
You are fearless.
Tell yourself those words you longed to hear in your past and never stop speaking to yourself with love, kindness, and acceptance.
Self-acceptance is all about being understanding of our strength and weakness; while recognizing our imperfections and responding to them with respect, support, which we freely offer to others. Self-acceptance is accepting who you are
without being judgemental. Embrace who you are rather than who you think you should be. Accept yourself with compassion.
Some words you can say to yourself are:
I accept I will be perfectly imperfect
I accept I have faults and everyone makes mistakes; I will grow from my mistakes.
I accept I also have talents, gifts, blessings, accomplishments, just like other human beings.
Sometimes, I can be confused; it is normal. I will figure things out.
PRACTICE SELF-TALK: Speak kindly to yourself when you make a mistake. When your inner critic says “you are a failure”, gently say to yourself; ”it is okay to make a mistake, I don’t need to make it harder by beating myself up about it. I don’t need to be perfect’’.
Replace the word- ‘’I cannot’’ to ‘‘I will’’ or ‘‘I can’’.
Speak positive affirmations that will help you feel better about yourself when you feel down.
Some affirmations you can tell yourself are:
I am blessed.
I am opened to receive.
I am wise.
I am peaceful .
I believe in myself.
I am dedicated.
I am relaxed.
I am rich.
I am confident.
I am fearless.
I am money magnet.
I am powerful.
I am beautiful/handsome.
I am grateful.
I am loving.
I am a genius.
I am brilliant.
I am healthy.
My mistakes don’t define me.
I am cheerful.
I am open-minded.
I am a perfect partner to my perfect partner.
I am living my dream come true.
I am fortunate.
Everything I need comes to me at the right time.
I trust the universe.
I am enough.
No one has the power to make me feel inferior.
I am a positive thinker.
It is okay to say NO to others and YES to myself.
I will not give up.
I choose happiness.
(When affirming these words to yourself, say it aloud).
Take control of your thoughts!